Monday, April 20, 2015

An Open Letter To My Blog Snitch

Dear Person Who Reads My Blog for the Sole Purpose of Starting Drama,

I have been wanting to write to you for a very long time.

First of all, thank you for being such a "loyal" follower of this blog. The speed with which you spread the news of my latest and greatest posts is astounding! I hope you will use that speed to do me a solid and help this post go viral as well! I would greatly appreciate it, and so would all the other people just like you.

To show my appreciation, I wanted to write and share some very key details about blogging with you that you may or may not be aware of as such a loyal reader. So pull up a chair, lean in close, and get that mass text ready to send out. This is going to be good.


1. Blogging is a deeply personal way of writing. 

In my opinion, blogging is very different from most styles of writing. For the most part most bloggers utilize their blogs to share their stories. We share these stories as a way to connect with other people who might be walking in the same pair of shoes we are. Some bloggers write through a personal struggle with an illness; some bloggers write to connect with other parents: single or married; and some bloggers write because they share a common experience with their readers like military spouses who blog. In our overtly connected world, you can find a blog on anything your little heart desires! There are food blogs, fashion blogs, movie blogs, and blogs solely devouted to couponing. You name it there is probably someone out there blogging about it from their own unique experiences and point of view.

In my case, I blog about divorce and co-parenting: two things that have deeply affected and changed my life in a thousand different ways. I write about these things not out of spite or malic, but because I know from personal experience, there is not alot of information out there regarding these issues. There is such a stigma attached to divorce and coparenting in our society and I want to show people that it doesn't have to be that way. I want to offer encouragement and hope to anyone out there who may be walking through their own divorce/coparenting journey. Are we perfect? No. Do we struggle? Yes. And I think it's important for the people who are going through similar things to know and understand that it's okay and just like me, they too can survive this. One day at a time.

This blog is my way to tell my story. Over and over and over again. It's my way of living out the call that has been placed on my life to help other people-esepcially women-who are struggling with this reality every single day.

And you know what? It's working. I have a folder full of all the emails I have received from women who have been truly touched by what I have to say, and for that reason and that reason alone, I will never stop telling my story.

2. Anonymity isn't alway possible.

I know several bloggers who have these fantastic blogs where they blog about their families and their daily lives using only psuedo names. I know they do it to protect their families and their privacy and I respect that. I try really hard not to use real names in my blog anymore, but in my crusade for honesty and transparency, sometimes that gets overlooked. But, please note that I do try.

3. There are two sides to every story. 

As I mentioned in #1, blogging is my way to tell MY story-my own personal experience and thoughts on a particular event or situation. I write 100% from my point of view and only my point of view, because the last time I checked, I am only one person and my personal point of view is what I know the most about.

Do I sometimes misinterpret actions and conversations? Abso-freaking-lutely!

I am woman. Hear me roar. 

Do I often have to apologize for those misinterpretations? More than you know.

Most of the people who read my blog, do not know me personally, and the people who do happen to know me personally, but who are not close to me, also know where to find the other side of the story if they really want to hear it.

As for those who are closest to me, they know and they can testify to the fact that I have always been beyond fair with my situation and the experiences that I write about in this blog. Period

I'm pretty sure you won't find any tire tracks on anyone's back anytime soon.

As I have pointed out numerous times in numerous posts, I am not perfect. My divorce and my coparenting situation is a constant work in progress, and that's why I share and talk about our mistakes-my mistakes-because that's what the people I am writing for need to hear. They need to know that they aren't alone. That there really is this crazy girl out there who understands what they are going through and who is trying to find her way through her own mess just like them.

But, I'm sure you already knew all of this as such a loyal follower of my blog.

I digress. 

4. Most posts are longer than one or two paragraphs. 

I find it hard to believe that you don't already know this since you are such an avid follower of ALL my posts, but were you aware that I'm a little long-winded as a writer?

Because I really am.

When I get started on something, I tend to just go on and on and on!

So, sometimes to get the whole point of the whole story, you have to read the WHOLE ENTIRE blog post to put everything into context, because if you don't, sometimes things get a little confusing.

I know! Crazy, right?

Just a little tip for you.

5. Freedom of speech is a real thing. 

Here's a little fun fact for you: did you know that there is a whole part of the constitution that protects one's right to freedom of speech? Yep. It's really in there! Good old, Thomas Jefferson penned it almost 240 years ago. 

Isn't that crazy?!?!

 Weird, right?


I want you to know that there are not words to truly express my gratitude to you! You have people stopping by to read my blog who never had an interest in my posts until you started pointing them my way! You have really aided in the increase of my blog traffic with the few, select people you are sure to make aware when I've posted something new.

I may have to put out a few fires every now and then, but it's no big deal! Because like you, people aren't often aware of tip #4. I don't mind to take one for the team every now and then, because of all the "good" you are doing and the people you are "helping". 

Why aren't there more people like you in the world? Seriously.

You know? It's too bad that more blogs don't have loyal followers who are just like you. They're really missing out. 



  1. People need lives. You do you and keep writing from your heart. Love your writing sweet friend and the honesty of it.

  2. Ugh. Seems to me like your blog snitch needs to go ahead and move on from jr. high!
    I've always thought that your writing is both honest and gracious - which is an amazing balance to strike in such a situation. You do an amazing job!!

  3. Thanks, ladies! The pettiness of some people irks me on so many levels! I was just D.O.N.E. staying quiet about it! :)


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